A Quilt for M and Overcoming My Perfection Paralysis

M is my beautiful grandson. M will turn 3 soon. Can you believe I still haven’t made a quilt for him? This is shocking and almost criminal, I know.

Out of respect for M, his parent and our privacy concerns for them, I won’t be sharing pictures of him/them or any additional details about M himself.

But I want to use this occasion to share a personal secret with you. I suffer from a hideous disease called Perfection Paralysis.

Have you ever experienced this? It’s when you find yourself unable to perform the “ideas” that are in your head and begging to come out because you are afraid they won’t come out as perfectly as you imagine. BECAUSE…as long as they stay ideas in your mind they are perfect. But what ends up happening is that you don’t make many of the things you really want to create. M’s Quilt is a perfect example of this. He’s turning 3 and still no quilt has been made by me. This is OUTRAGEOUS to me and I’m fed up. I’m done with this disease.

Ugh. I’m the only one who can take action to cure it, you know. And one thing that’s become clear to me through all the stuff that’s happening in the world right now is that I no longer have time or luxury of allowing Perfection Paralysis a place in my life. So here I am, baring my soul in hopes that maybe I can help someone else free themselves of this hideous disease.

Sew…I turned this into a challenge for myself.

The challenge was to make a more “modernish” style quilt that has a lot of negative space (note: negative space is the space between, within and surrounding an object in an image) and to use ONLY the solid fabrics that I currently have on hand. This quilt will be a utilitarian/drag around cuddle quilt. I have removed any expectations of myself and I am creating and sewing with abandon as ideas come to me.

SEW…The picture above shows approximately 18″ of the bottom right corner of the quilt top. The M was cut out from pieced 1inch strips of many solid fabrics. I cut the M and fused it on. I will stitch it down with a durable zigzag/satin stitch. The colorful 1/2inch finished strip at the bottom was pieced into a floating border (and there is a mirror image of it at the top left side of the quilt top). It’s funny, I mused as I was sewing the colorful strips into the floating borders that they reminded me of military service ribbons.

As of right now, I plan to do either simple straight line or whimsical wavy line quilting across the quilt using my domestic sewing machine. I have always loved closely quilted horizontal straight line quilting. Fingers crossed and saying my prayers that I will get this thing finished, bound and sent off to M this week. Please send good thoughts my way.

Sew…my friends…what do you think? Do you have any thoughts or feedback? Constructive comments and feedback are always welcome! Please know that to protect you from seeing unwanted spam garbage I do have to approve each comment before it will post so there may be a delay in seeing your comment appear.

2 thoughts on “A Quilt for M and Overcoming My Perfection Paralysis”

  1. That’s WONDERFUL Helen! Enjoy the journey. Just let go of the perfection mentality. Free yourself up to sew with wild abandon. Hugs & smiles…

  2. I suffer from this too! Thank you for so eloquently putting a name to it. So, I think I will take this time and join you in your challenge! It is time…

    Thank you,
    Helen C in SC

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